I have already asked a question about pregnancy symptoms and it seems like I should take a test to see what is going on, i would love a BFP even if it is unexpected, more due to being on the pill and partners low fertility.
My partner and I are currently in different countries (only a few more weeks and he will be moving to live with me). Should I tell him I am going to do a test, or just do it and tell him if it is positive and then just forget it if it is negative?
Maybe it’s just me, but I tell my partner EVERYTHING. If my period is late, he knows it. If I take a test, negative or not, he knows it.
March 29th, 2010 at 11:42 am
i always told him when i had reason to take one or we were TTC. they were usually positive.
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March 29th, 2010 at 12:28 pm
Maybe it’s just me, but I tell my partner EVERYTHING. If my period is late, he knows it. If I take a test, negative or not, he knows it.
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March 29th, 2010 at 1:09 pm
Seeing that he’s not living in the country at the moment you shouldn’t tell him unless it’s a BFP. You don’t know he is going to react either way and this way he won’t get all nutty about it and then find out it was a BFN.
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March 29th, 2010 at 1:42 pm
I say Just Tell Him If It’s Positive There Is no reason To Get Him Worked Up or Make Him Disappointed If It’s Negative Just take one and tell him If it’s Positive If it’s negative it Shouldn’t matter At All and I wouldn’t even bring It Up.
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March 29th, 2010 at 2:05 pm
nah, only told him when it was positive, well actually i just handed it to him in bed that night, wanted to watch the smile grow across his little face, was amazing
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March 29th, 2010 at 2:42 pm
Well when me and my partner were trying for our 2nd i didnt tell him every time i did a test as i did 2/3 a month. However if he asked whether i could be i just said no as i did the other day. However when i did my test in Feb i didnt tell him i was doing it and it came out as positive so i went and asked him what he thought he said where he smiled and was really excited!!! If it will worry him he doesnt need to know especially if its neg but i wouldnt keep it a secret as then its as if you are hiding it and trying to trick him (thats not the right word but hopefully you know what i mean!) Good Luck xox
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March 29th, 2010 at 3:11 pm
I told him at times and other times I kept it to myself. I guess I always wanted to be sure and didn’t want the sympathy when it was negative. Do what feels right. It gets harder and harder to get negatives so sometimes you just need the support. If you are in doubt wait another week to take a test.
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March 29th, 2010 at 3:54 pm
I didn’t tell Andrew when I was taking the first couple tests (now a total of 17..yep, 17)! I told him around 4-5! I would just tell him if it were positive… There is no reason to get his hopes up (if you’re trying) or freaking him out (if you’re not).. So I would just wait!
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March 29th, 2010 at 4:43 pm
My husband always knew before I did. I’ve never had a chance to tell him or surprise him. In fact, it was usually his idea to take or buy a pregnancy test.
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March 29th, 2010 at 5:16 pm
I wouldn’t tell him unless it was positive, and I would probably think of a special way to tell him he is going to be a daddy.
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March 29th, 2010 at 5:31 pm
well, a surprise would be cool. However, the first time I took a test myself my husband got upset cause he wasn’t there to see for himself etc. Even though it was a negative. So, every test I took afterward i took with him around.
They all turned out negative….so, On Aprill2nd I missed my cycle again, but because we have infertility probs ( I have PCOS) I wasn’t going to test. Well, I decided kinda suddenly to test..expecting it to be another "no" right away it showed a positive.
I as very shocked as our hopes of gettign pregnant were slim. I immediatly took a pic of the positive result on my cell and sent it to him….then called my DR who wanted a blood test just to be sure.
When the DR called with the news? I had her talk to my husband and she said yes! He was a lil disappointed that he wasn’t with me to test, but did know that I had done it because of all the negatives before.
Plus, it was 2 days before his birthday so he considered it a present.
So, in answer to your question? If its a no then not telling him woudl be ok so there are no disappointments….but if eh is like my husband he wants to be there when it says yes. So..maybe call hima nd hint around that you feel you need one and see what he suggests? Also, how long is he going tto be gone? Cause the longer you wait..well you need care and all so I wouldn’t wait to long.
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March 29th, 2010 at 6:19 pm
Having been TTC for 5 years the amount of hope i have put in the pee sticks is a shocker!! I thought if my hubby knew how much i had spent he’d flip, but a few weeks ago he found a stash of my boxes and all he did was hug me. He knows how sad i get and i underestimated him.
Be honest and enjoy it together xxxxx
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March 29th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
I used to tell him when i was taking one every time before i did the test. However after the miscarriage i took one and told him because i still though i was. Was negative but i still had the feeling. I took 4 more in the 2 weeks after 2 negative and 2 positive i only told him about the positive ones. I wouldn’t tell your partner personally unless it was positive!
Good luck babe and hope its positive for you
<3
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March 29th, 2010 at 7:24 pm
It depends on what you are comfortable with. If the test is negative and you feel like you can go through that alone, go for it. When i was ttc i told my fiance everytime i took a test except one time and that one time it was negative and i was crushed. I didnt have the support i would have had if i would have told him. I wish you the best of luck and lots of baby dust.
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